I finally found the link on Julie’s blog to one of the forums where she was reportedly getting excoriated, and went along to see what it was all about, and walked in on the tail end of a massive debate. Being me, I couldn’t resist joining in, so rather than try to follow up on a zillion points of contention on there I posted a couple of questions and invited people back to this blog for follow-up. This could get interesting. Well, for certain very specific values of interesting that actually equate to extremely boring for most people apart from me.
And, yes, people were excoriating Julie. In fairness, a lot of that was in reaction to a badly-phrased post on her part which did make it sound as though she’d simply left him for an hour with no way to tell how hard he was screaming and whether he’d vomited, shit himself, or even choked. She’s since clarified that she could actually hear him through the open window the whole time and hence knew that he was sleeping for the first three-quarters of that hour and grumbling for the rest of it, which is a rather different kettle of fish. But, even once she posted that, people accused her of backpeddling and claimed the fact that she was bothering to explain this proved she must be feeling guilty about her terrible misdeeds. Then there were all the people who compared it to child abuse. And a couple of people who blamed her for even daring to utter negative sentiments about the experience of parenthood (or maybe for daring to feel those sentiments in the first place, who knows). And, when she’d had enough of the discussion & turned off the comments section on her blog, she got criticised for that as well. You get the picture.
To be fair, there were more thoughtful and sensitive posters as well. We shall see how this goes.
At some point, I probably should post about something other than CIO. I do actually have a life, though I wouldn’t blame anyone for doubting it at this point. I just get distracted from it by my addiction to debate, which is far more interesting.